Rites of Passage
We begin the planning process by first exploring why we are choosing to gather this select group. What is the desired outcome?
Baby Showers: For instance, does Evelyn, a minimalist, need another traditional baby shower for her second child when she already has all the baby gear she desires? Maybe Evelyn still deeply wants to gather those she loves the most to introduce them to her new baby, the new family dynamic and be witnessed during this sacred transition into motherhood (yes, it absolutely is still sacred the second time, and third time, and fourth time, etc...), but she feels confined by the old school rules, feels that it's not a good use of her loved one's time and money, so she declines having a baby shower at all. I say, kick the old school rules to the curb and get clear about intention! Maybe, instead of the traditional baby shower, we gather Evelyn's most beloved community (men included!) and have a potluck brunch (where she keeps all the leftovers to help her out with meals during this challenging time) followed by a ceremony in which baby is blessed by someone within the family's spiritual community and baby's name is announced.
And this doesn't just apply to baby showers. This is only one example. Here are more gathering ideas, some of them traditional, some of them, perhaps are new to you. Once we uncover the "why", we discover more freedom to get creative around the "how".
Sacred Transitions are recognized throughout the world, but in Western culture pass without remark. What do I mean by this? Instead of embracing her new identity, her newly flowering body, a young woman is taught embarrassment and shame around this new cycle of her life. Sometimes the silence speaks louder than words. Women silently pass into motherhood everyday and though it is celebrated, the focus of celebration is on baby. A women's sacred journey from Maiden to Mother is an opportunity for tremendous personal growth, but once again, downplayed. In a culture utterly obsessed with youth, when a woman leaves her lunar cycles behind and once again transitions, this time into Wise Woman, we do everything we can to not notice... and often she does everything she can to cling to her youth. And so the cycle goes, passed on from mother to daughter. How might femininity look if women chose to see their sacredness at all stages? I don't know, but as a mom of four daughters, I'd really like to find out. If you would like to celebrate your daughter's passing into maidenhood, plan a more mother-honoring ceremony into motherhood (like the one depicted in the video below) or talk about a croning ceremony, I want to hear from you. I'll help you plan it FREE OF CHARGE in exchange for featuring the pictures and stories on my blog and social media.
I adore this mama blessing! Want to make the Canadian version?